Affectophobia therapy: 5 tips to learn to release subcutaneous tension in your body.

Your whole life feeling like you're living behind a curtain, a part of you just doesn't blossom, scared but still trying so hard to fit in. And especially having no idea why it came about because you've always been like this, but awareness is growing. Everyone is a product of genes and environment, nature and nurture. Logical, of course, but if you don't know what's going on for a long time, then everything will happen to you. I am now on the border of knowing what impact my environment has had on me and discovering what is still partly in my nature. Fuck, why did it take me half a century to do that! Exactly the border that's how it feels because I recently (see previous blog) pierced the curtain. Only my body reacts violently by the release of decades of stored tension, my body vibrates inside, a continuous feeling of pumping, tingling in my brain that radiates through my neck and between my shoulder blades to my arms and my legs. So bad that I can't sleep well anymore. My fourth week since the real insomnia started.

Looking for relief, accepting letting go and the associated sensations in your body, taking a rest is really doing nothing?, on drugs for the first time... Below my rescue list to get through this period. 5 tips to get through the times of integration of suppressed emotions.

Tip #1 - Do not feel guilty

Everything has to go on, right? No, it really isn't anymore. Always fought so hard to recover, to function normally again. And now I have to go back to work! I've had a lot of trouble with that in recent weeks, but I now feel that I need all my energy to pay attention to what my body has to tell me. Unfortunately, I am not yet good at translation, so that will also be a process. I just decided that it's ok that I don't have room for the rest right now and that I didn't feel guilty about it (again). And that gives peace.

Tip #2 - Accept aids even if you are against them in principle

Sometimes the real need breaks the law. Preferably natural and no drugs. But sometimes you have no choice and you have to take a tool to relax your body more. I had never had a sleep aid before and even found it scary, but it did help me to get some energy for a few days. But the danger remains that it is addictive. So a few days maximum so that your body can take over again after that as the doctor said. That's fine now, but sleeping through is another story. In any case, be careful with it.

"Sleep is the best meditation." – Dalai Lama

Tip #3 - Let the turmoil be there

All my life I was easily emotional. And regularly it came like a wave and I didn't know what was happening. Fighting your emotions I know now. But still understanding what happens internally about feelings and emotions is sometimes abracadabra. Since the confrontation exercise as breaking through your defenses in the affect phobia therapy, I feel everything in my body. Even then I kept fighting it, but there is no stopping it now. The therapist says to just let it be. But if you want to sleep at night it's really impossible. Consciously relax your hands and try to listen to what your body has to say. No idea still... but we're getting closer. Just let it be.

Tip #4 - Sleep meditation app

The days without sleeping medication I now use a natural supplement of Valerian and passion flower. But that is less strong and I have discovered that for me the sleep meditation of Manifestation Magic (affiliate link) is very helpful. Kind of psychedelic music that you can drift away from. I love it. Also a friend recommended the meditation app of Glenn Harrold. Lots of choice and also very pleasant voice.

Tip #5 - Ashtanga Yoga

Staying active during the day is important if you want to increase the chance of a good night's sleep. We all know that moving to get rid of your restlessness. In addition to the weekly trip to the gym, I (again) signed up for yoga and chi qong. I liked this before, but now Ashtanga Yoga. Here you work well with your breath and you repeat a series of movements on the breath. The first lesson has been and I think this can really help me further in my recovery and bring my body back into balance.

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Self-care is priority

Keep in touch with your body and don't give up. Good luck exploring what works for you and be sure to let us know what worked in the comments below or reach out to me to perhaps share it in another way.